Alpha parenting

People young and old are treated for anxiety, fear, and depression. These are not new problems, but it seems that more people are plagued with these issues now than in previous generations. After studying humans of all ages, abilities, and living situations, I have concluded that the most important thing in raising a person to become mentally healthy is to be an alpha parent. Parents have been in the world much longer than their children and have learned a few things. They are responsible for the bringing up of these babies who they have created. Whether a child has only one parent or two, or if there is involved extended family, children should be brought up knowing they are not in charge, but they will be when they become adults. During that time, they will be developing a sense of self. Children grow up feeling more secure when they have parents who guide, set limits, and teach. If they don't have this, they flounder, and the pattern starts. Parents need to make decisions for them. Little by little as a child grows, they can make decisions, but it should not start too early. They first need to learn that mother and dad are in charge, and their word stands. But what if...? But shouldn't...? Let the child first feel secure, protected, and cared for, Allow them to grow not just in size but also emotionally.  For starters, feeding children is the parent's job. Teach them to eat what makes them grow strong and healthy.  They shouldn't choose what or how much their little tastes dictate. I have observed that these kids who have depression have had parents who don't function as parents. They let their kids start making decisions for themselves when they are little and are  mentally incapable of doing so. They need a parent who says no, who teaches why something is not right and why they won't allow it.  How to be a good parent? Don't be afraid of your child. Set limits. Say no and deal with their childish emotional response maturely. Let them learn that in life we don't always get yes. Protect them from themselves. Turn off the media. Have positive conversations. Don't allow fear to get a foothold in their lives. Be the alpha parent.